Be patient with me blog fam. I've got back to back midterm exams and papers this week so it may be a minute until I can make a post. I will say this though. Much fuckery occurred this weekend. Details later...

Party Weekend!

Heyyyyyy everybody! It's been a minute, huh? I think this is the least I've written in months. Only twice in one week? Blasphemy! I'd like to say that I've been uber busy, but that would be a lie. Midterms are coming up, but that's not until next week...Whoo, next week is gonna be a busy one. Probably won't be able to make a post until next Wedneseday...But anway, I've just been taking a breather for the week. On Tuesday my mom came to visit me which absolutely made my day because it was so rainy and bleak. On Wednesday, I gave myself a sew-in. Sorry, I don't have any pics, but after this weekend, I should have some to post because it's homecoming at my school.

Those in the midwest may know that the University of Illinois is famous for its good academic reputation, as well as for its bomb ass parties. Since only about 10% of my school is Black, we get our own homecoming celebration. So, that means parties, after parties, and after after parties. Can't do too much tonight because I still have to work at 9am tomorrow, but I am going to the African American fashion show. Don't get the wrong idea, this is no amateur show. There are real make up artists, real hairstylists, and real models (as well as any students who audition that made the cut). As for everyone who's attending, it pretty much just gives us a good reason to dress up, which I'm really looking forward to. And tomorrow night is the BIG party (600 tickets have been sold)--the one that brings people in from other midwestern universities. I've already got my most slutified outfit picked out for it and everything.Needless to say, I'm gettin it crackin this weekend.

I'm going all out for homecoming simply because I never go out. I'm more of a homebody than a partyhopper. So, since I know this is going to be the last time I go to a party for a while, I want to make sure I have a good time.

By the time you hear from me again, I should have some visual evidence of my weekend. And by next Thursday definitely, I'll be back to my normal blog posting (and stalking), schedule since midterms will be over. I haven't forgotten about you all. I'll catch up next week. Promise.

Until then, have a fabulous weekend, my sweets. Try to enjoy the good weather will it lasts. I know I will.

Some People Have Real Problems

Ciao, blog fam! How's everyone's week going?

I feel so at ease right now. Wanna know why? Because I dropped my Italian class! I know, it's a little sad because I love Italian. But it I just didn't have the time to devote to studying it every single night, and I was flunking. So, I made the informed decision to drop the course so that it wouldn't effect my GPA, and I think it was for the best. Now I'm less stressed, and I don't feel as guilty about blogging when I should be doing other homework. I was only taking it because I plan on studying abroad in Italy, but I know alot of people who have gone there witout prior experience in the language, and got along fine. The good thing is that I was able to replace the class with another one so that I don't lose my credit hours (and my scholarship).

Lately I've been thinking about my "problems." My boy troubles and school stresses and money woes and....that's it. That's it.

I had a little epiphony and realized that I'm extremely blessed. I may encounter situations that break my spirit momentarily, but the big picture is incredibly whole. I have my health, my family, my friends, my education. And I realized that, I have to make a mental note whenever I get angsty or depressed. I've got to recognize all that I do have, instead of dwelling on what I don't.

So, today in honor of my revelation (lol), I'm making a music post. I've been listening to an album by an artist name Sia alot lately. She's a white girl from Austrailia with alot of soul--kind of a Joss Stone type, but her music is more experimental. Her album is called Some People Have Real Problems, and they are songs about love and relationships, but not just the dating disappointments. Anyway, here's a the video for her latest single. Seriously, watch it. It's such a creative concept for a video and, even if you don't like her genre, you'll appreciate it.



I saw this video and was hooked.

If you liked what you heard, here's a link to download the album.

Enjoy!

Not A Girl....Not Yet A Woman.

I found a Facebook chain-note actually worth reposting.

Girls want to control the man in their life.
Women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.

Girls check their men for not calling them.
Women are too busy to realize they hadn't.

Girls are afraid to be alone.
Women embrace it, and use it as a time for personal growth.

Girls ignore the good guys.
Women ignore the bad guys.

Girls make their men come home.
Women make their men want to come home.

Girls wait for a guy to call and make plans.
Women make their own plans and tell the guy to get in where he fits.

Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man.
Women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.

Girls try to monopolize all their man's time.
Women realize that a little bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special.

Girls think a guy who cries is weak.
Women offer their shoulder and a tissue.

Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it.
Women know that was just one man.

Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all 'signs'.
Women know that sometimes the one you love, doesn't always love you back, and move on. Without bitterness.

Girls will read this and get an attitude.
Women will read this and pass it on to other women and their male friends.

Now obviously, this isn't the ultimate list that determines true womanhood. But I think it does make a good distinction between how women of different maturity levels approach relationships.
According to this, I'm about 20% Girl, 70% Woman, and 10% Other.

So, what's the verdict ladies? According to this criteria, are you a girl or a woman?

And what, in your opinion, is missing from the list?

Ladies and Gentlemen, Sarah Palin...

I never get political on this blog, but I had to post this picture. This is for you Charles.

The 80/20 Rule

The way I write about guys I'm dating, you'd think that they were the only ones I talked to. But the contrary is true. I'm not saying I've got dudes lined up around the block, but I do have a few options. It's just that I don't return their advances. It's not that I'm picky. I'm just selective. I may not know what I want, but I know what I don't want. So, when guys like me but I don't like them, I take being single over settling. That may mean that I'm responsible for my own loneliness, but I can live with that. I've been approached by plenty of guys who were fine--I'm talking, my type from head to toe. But their personalities either sucked, or they were boring as hell. I'm not so desperate for male companionship that I'd hook up with someone I felt absolutely zero chemistry with.

I can't help but wonder if I'm missing out though. When I reject guys because of the lack of chemistry, maybe I'm throwing away the chance of a great catch. Maybe sometimes we have to settle for less than we want. If we write guys off because they lack one quality, then it's possible that we're missing out on all of the other ones that we'd love.

Those of you who have seen Why Did I Get Married will remember this scene...Only 28 seconds. Watch it.



So my questio is, if you meet a guy that you don't click with, do you keep trekking in the hopes of finding the one who possesses all the qualities you want, or do you still give him a chance just in case he's got everything else you desire in a man?

Question of the Day

Hey blog fam. How's everyone doing today?

I for one, am feeling MUCH better. If you couldn't tell by my post before this one, I was still a little down in the dumps about Mr. Cocky and the whole FBW disaster. I was even contemplating discontinuing this blog for a while because I didn't even feel like thinking about dating, let alone writing about it. But I found my inner peace, thanks to everyone's wonderful comments...For real, ya'll. I'm really starting to realize how much I've grown to consider my blog family actual friends. Your words, encouragement, and advice are invaluable, and I just want to thank everyone who commented in the past few days. I really appreciated it :). *E-Hug*

So, I was surfing the Freelance Writers Job Board (a GREAT resource for writers seeking temporary/permanent positions) a few days ago and I found a website looking for a person write their Question of the Day column. The questions could range from politics to entertainment to relationships. It could be anything at all, as long as you came up with a new question everyday. The monthly stipend is $100, which may not seem like much, but would do wonders for a broke college student like me, so I jumped at the oppurtunity. But after I applied I started to realize that I've already got a ridiculous work load as it is. I have two blogs I try to update daily, a shitload of homework, as well as a weekend job, and I really don't have the time to devote to another blog. But the thing is, I liked the idea of a daily question. So, here's something I'm going to try from now on. I'm going to start really posting questions everyday. Depending on the level of participation, I might make it a Question of the Week instead. Or I might even make it a poll on the side bar. We'll see.

So anyway, I had my tongue pierced for about 6 months last year, but then I took it out because I was sick of the attention I was getting for it. I got the piercing because I always wanted one, so it wasn't for sexual reasons. But, to the public, having an oral ring was like having "I love giving head" tattooed on my tongue. I didn't like what conclusion guys instantly jumped to since I really did only get it for fashion purposes, so I got rid of it. But lately, I've been looking at my collection of tongue rings and I'm starting to miss it. So, I'm thinking about getting it peirced again.

That said, this question is directed to both girls and guys, because I've come in contact with quite a few fellas who've had their tongues peirced, believe it or not.

Tongue rings: turn-on or turn-off?