Infidelity: Emotional vs. Physical

Which do you think is more hurtful?

What the D.U.F.F.???

Sometimes I feel like such a fuddy duddy because I'm so out of the loop on today's slang. I just recently became aware of an acronym that is apparently common knowledge:

D.U.F.F.

I've heard this expression being thrown around alot lately, but I had no idea what the hell it meant. Eventually my curiousity get the best of me, and looked it up in my trusty Urban Dictionary. These were my findings:

D.U.F.F.=Designated Ugly Fat Friend

1.
Often in many large groups of women (usually adolecents) there will be a D.U.F.F. as a means to look better by comparison.

I only hang out with her becuase I need a D.U.F.F., otherwise, she'd be, so, history.


2.
The cock-blocking friend of the hot chick you're trying to hook up with, often the target of the wingman.

I was totally in with this chick and then her D.U.F.F. totally cock-blocked me! -or- I'll take her, while you distract her D.U.F.F.!

Who thought of this shit?

I did a little more research on the D.U.F.F. Theory and found this:



I wouldn't suggest watching the entire video because this negro is a total douche, but the first 30 seconds pretty much surmise the D.U.F.F. Theory.

Here's another video. According to this guy, every group has a D.U.F.F. Not just girls. I wouldn't suggest watching this in its entirety either. I didn't.


So anyway, my question is if there's anyone out there--guy or girl--who believes in this theory? I know you don't want to come off as a douchebag, but I'm curious. Do you have a D.U.F.F.? Or better yet, are you a D.U.F.F.?

Not A Girl....Not Yet A Woman.

I found a Facebook chain-note actually worth reposting.

Girls want to control the man in their life.
Women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.

Girls check their men for not calling them.
Women are too busy to realize they hadn't.

Girls are afraid to be alone.
Women embrace it, and use it as a time for personal growth.

Girls ignore the good guys.
Women ignore the bad guys.

Girls make their men come home.
Women make their men want to come home.

Girls wait for a guy to call and make plans.
Women make their own plans and tell the guy to get in where he fits.

Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man.
Women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.

Girls try to monopolize all their man's time.
Women realize that a little bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special.

Girls think a guy who cries is weak.
Women offer their shoulder and a tissue.

Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it.
Women know that was just one man.

Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all 'signs'.
Women know that sometimes the one you love, doesn't always love you back, and move on. Without bitterness.

Girls will read this and get an attitude.
Women will read this and pass it on to other women and their male friends.

Now obviously, this isn't the ultimate list that determines true womanhood. But I think it does make a good distinction between how women of different maturity levels approach relationships.
According to this, I'm about 20% Girl, 70% Woman, and 10% Other.

So, what's the verdict ladies? According to this criteria, are you a girl or a woman?

And what, in your opinion, is missing from the list?

The 80/20 Rule

The way I write about guys I'm dating, you'd think that they were the only ones I talked to. But the contrary is true. I'm not saying I've got dudes lined up around the block, but I do have a few options. It's just that I don't return their advances. It's not that I'm picky. I'm just selective. I may not know what I want, but I know what I don't want. So, when guys like me but I don't like them, I take being single over settling. That may mean that I'm responsible for my own loneliness, but I can live with that. I've been approached by plenty of guys who were fine--I'm talking, my type from head to toe. But their personalities either sucked, or they were boring as hell. I'm not so desperate for male companionship that I'd hook up with someone I felt absolutely zero chemistry with.

I can't help but wonder if I'm missing out though. When I reject guys because of the lack of chemistry, maybe I'm throwing away the chance of a great catch. Maybe sometimes we have to settle for less than we want. If we write guys off because they lack one quality, then it's possible that we're missing out on all of the other ones that we'd love.

Those of you who have seen Why Did I Get Married will remember this scene...Only 28 seconds. Watch it.



So my questio is, if you meet a guy that you don't click with, do you keep trekking in the hopes of finding the one who possesses all the qualities you want, or do you still give him a chance just in case he's got everything else you desire in a man?

Question of the Day

Hey blog fam. How's everyone doing today?

I for one, am feeling MUCH better. If you couldn't tell by my post before this one, I was still a little down in the dumps about Mr. Cocky and the whole FBW disaster. I was even contemplating discontinuing this blog for a while because I didn't even feel like thinking about dating, let alone writing about it. But I found my inner peace, thanks to everyone's wonderful comments...For real, ya'll. I'm really starting to realize how much I've grown to consider my blog family actual friends. Your words, encouragement, and advice are invaluable, and I just want to thank everyone who commented in the past few days. I really appreciated it :). *E-Hug*

So, I was surfing the Freelance Writers Job Board (a GREAT resource for writers seeking temporary/permanent positions) a few days ago and I found a website looking for a person write their Question of the Day column. The questions could range from politics to entertainment to relationships. It could be anything at all, as long as you came up with a new question everyday. The monthly stipend is $100, which may not seem like much, but would do wonders for a broke college student like me, so I jumped at the oppurtunity. But after I applied I started to realize that I've already got a ridiculous work load as it is. I have two blogs I try to update daily, a shitload of homework, as well as a weekend job, and I really don't have the time to devote to another blog. But the thing is, I liked the idea of a daily question. So, here's something I'm going to try from now on. I'm going to start really posting questions everyday. Depending on the level of participation, I might make it a Question of the Week instead. Or I might even make it a poll on the side bar. We'll see.

So anyway, I had my tongue pierced for about 6 months last year, but then I took it out because I was sick of the attention I was getting for it. I got the piercing because I always wanted one, so it wasn't for sexual reasons. But, to the public, having an oral ring was like having "I love giving head" tattooed on my tongue. I didn't like what conclusion guys instantly jumped to since I really did only get it for fashion purposes, so I got rid of it. But lately, I've been looking at my collection of tongue rings and I'm starting to miss it. So, I'm thinking about getting it peirced again.

That said, this question is directed to both girls and guys, because I've come in contact with quite a few fellas who've had their tongues peirced, believe it or not.

Tongue rings: turn-on or turn-off?