Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Will You Marry Me?!? *SPLAT* Lookin' Ass...

"Hello beautiful. How are you doing today? Well, you came across my mind a few times today while I was daydreaming and I really enjoy talking to you. I would still like to be the one for you, if you will have me. I really don't mind waiting because I feel that you are so worth waiting for because I feel that you are worth everyday that I wait. It's better so that I can really get to know you."

This is a text message that I just received from a guy I met two days ago. It's ripe with grammatical errors, but still sweet. So what gives? I really have no clue.

I've had about three near-proposals this summer from guys that I'd known less than a week. And each time I received these premature declarations of love, I wanted to run for the hills. I feel like a jerk for rejecting guys who are actually available and want to be with me, while lusting after the one (yes, MK) who's so unattainable. It's not even the thrill of the chase or the Bad Boy edge, either. It's just that, it's something a little off putting about a guy talking about the distant future on the first date. At least for me anyway. My spiel all summer has been, "I'm just dating. Not looking for anything serious. If a relationship does come of this, it'll happen wayyyyyy down the line. But for right now, I just want to date. Period."

Though "dating" is subject for interpretation, the overall idea is basically a lite version of a relationship. We can get to know each other, slowly move into the relationship stuff, and THEN the title comes. But let's not rush into things. No talking for one day and then deciding that you're my man and I'm your girl. I think I've grown out of that. I want to have that special someone that I talk to often, but not too often. Someone I care about but I'm not in love with. Someone who I'm faithful to and vice versa, but not tied down to.

I'm starting to think that I have a fear of emotional intimacy now. Possibly a result of my relationship with Ex....That said, I don't exactly find a guy who's gung ho about exchanging vows appealing anymore. I mean, is it just me or do all women find it a little unattractive for a guy to jump the relationship gun so quickly?

7 comments:

karrie b. said...

bitch please! don't act like you don't know why you got niggas goin crazy!!! own that shit! ur beautiful and u know it!

-KB

Qucifer said...

um you're flipped ot cause boys in lust are talking crazy shit

when the see you woken up, pissy etc and some time has passed is when you actually DON'T run for the hills

Bloggal said...

Awww, thanks Karrie baby.

And Q, you got a point there lol.

Muze said...

um yeah that is a little early to be saying all that stuff. but i think it's sweet.

as far as dating, i've never actually gotten to 'date', per se... always been the one with a man, so i can't help you there. lol.

but yes for the short time i was single dudes were like trying to wife me after one date. i'm like hold on now... lol.

so no you're not being mean or anything. the men are just way too excited! lol.

Bloggal said...

I agree, it is sweet. "But still kinda like, dang dude--you don't even know me!"...I'm glad it's not just me though lol.

Charles said...

Yo...I'd be skeptical of a guy who would be saying all of that after two days. That seems like he's forcing stuff with you and not letting the beat build.

And also, maybe you need a healing period from your Ex too...

Or...you are just that damn fly that dudes are throwing themselves at you....

All 3 scenarios seem highly likely.

Bloggal said...

@ Charles: All 3 scenarios are indeed true lol.

These dudes are definitely forcing something that I've told them I'm not ready for.

I've treated my summer as my healing period, though I think I could use a little break from the dating scene all togetther...

And you're right, I am that fly;-)

Good call, Charles lol.

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