Monday, March 30, 2009

Acting Like a "Lady"

So, I'm back at school. Wish I could say that my break rejuvenated me, but...meh. Not really. Being that the only thing I had to look forward to turned out to be a true hell date, can't say that my vacation was all that spectacular. But lemme quit complaining. The fact that I was able to sleep late, watch tv, and chill in pjs all day wasn't terrible. Not at all.

It's just that the whole Facebook drama with the BFF and my mom dominated the tail end of my break and kind of stressed me out. The whole next day my mother gave me the silent treatment. Sorta. She talked to me but only in short, cold tones. By the end of the night, I sent her an email (because she's not the confrontational type) apologizing for not standing up for her more. I told her that it hadn't quite hit me how disrespectful it was for my BFF to say those things to her, and how it may have made her felt that I let her off the hook so easily. I assured her that I'd never choose my friendship with the BFF over my relationship with her. The next morning, she called me to her room in tears and gave a really tight, long hug. She kept saying "thank you" over and over. And finally pulled away saying, "that's exactly what I needed to hear".

The reconciliation between my mom resulted in the grudge I'm holding with my friend. Well, not a grudge exactly. I just don't feel like talking to her right now. We're the types of best friends who speak daily, a few times a day. So going three days without verbal communication is kind of a big deal. But I am upset that she didn't consider how her comment would hurt and effect my relationship with my mother. Or at the very least, how it would effect my relationship with her. Again, my mom was totally wrong too, but my friend could've (and should've) been the bigger person. If only to save me the uncomfortable situation of having to choose. But since she didn't, I'm choosing to be my mom's ally for now. Regardless of how things turned out, I made the decision early on to deactivate Facebook. And for once, I really don't miss it.

I don't know if it was because of my date fiasco or if she's trying to give me the same advice she gave my best friend (act like a lady!) but as a parting gift, my mom gave me her copy of Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. She'd been reading it my entire break, and passed the torch like it was a bloody heirloom. I've been annoyed out of my mind that all you hear these days are women quoting the gospel according to Steve Harvey. But, I decided I'm not going to judge the book by its cover and give it a read anyway. Speaking of covers, <---this is a terrible one. I took the paper sleeve off because he reminds me too much of Mr. Potato Head. See the resemblance? Anyway, I hate the idea of jumping on the best seller bandwagon. However, I'm not opposed to self-help books and how-to guides because a select few CAN be helpful. So, I'll give Mr. Potato Head a chance.


Tuotierugif >^..^<© said...

Im glad that you and your mom are back on speaking terms thats always a bad situation to be in :( im over here in class trying not to laugh at your mr. potato head assesment! lol

Torrance Stephens - All-Mi-T said...

well one should be and not pretend - thats what acting is - fake

Anonymous said...

Girl, you know my feelings on that book. If you come back quoting this mess, I'm guaranteed to e-smack you. Seriously.

1/3 said...

Im glad you chose to be on your mom's side and you two are still talking. aint nothing worse then fighting with family:-(.

urghh to steve harvey...i read an excerpt from his book and it seems like his advice is common sense...but im interested to see how u liked the book

Anonymous said...

There is not a goddamned thing that this potato headed used car salesman pimp suit old man at the club- leave your former spouse in the mud looking ass nigga could tell me about nothing!

Mr Creepy Teeth!

Bloggal said...

@ tt: yeah, can't stand being at odds with my mommy...i had to work it out with her.

but for real though, doesn't he look like mr. potato head??? lol

@ torrance: you crack me up with your totally unrelated comments. but yep, you're right.

@ robin: bwahaha! no worries, you won't have to e-smack me. it's kind of like an athiest reading the bible; i wanna know for sure what he's talking about so i can rightfully disagree with him.

@ 1/3: even though she was mad wrong, like you said, blood is thicker than water and fighting with family sucks so i had to side with my mom.

ugh yeeah. we'll see about steve's book. i'm in the second chapter now but when i'm done i'll write a review.

@ qq: biiiiitch. i will END you for "mr. creepy teeth".

ShAy~SHaY said...

i actually read the book and its not that bad. its true tho, most of what he's saying is common sense but in reality most females aren't doing it and are wondering why they are single.

all he's doing is giving his male perspective on things and just trying to be helpful to the female gender.

Miss Moody said...

I've been thinking about buying it, but I tend to spend my book money on chick lit :-)

YoungBlackBeauty said...

I've been hearing buzz about it. I was never a fan of Steve Harvey. I listen to the radio show every now and then but thats as far as it goes. Let me know what you think of it first. And wow he does look like MR. Potato Head LOL!

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E.Claire said...

I enjoyed your post! I had to take the cover off too. Just looked strange and didn't want to show off that I was reading it. It really really changed my life though. no joke.

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