Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Sorry Cupid

Hey lovers.

First off, I just wanted to answer a few of your questions about my TA.

Yes, he is a He. But if he was a She, I'd be equally flattered. (Experience and Gem lol)

Yes, he's attractive. Not "hawt". But cute in a nerdy kind of way.

The funny thing about it is he made sure he waited until we didn't have anymore class sessions together before he sent the message. Maybe his logic was, if I turned him down, at least he wouldn't have to see me again. I found that kind of adorable.

I didn't turn him down though. I accepted his invitation the very same day, but I have yet to hear from him. Perhaps he thought that I was rejecting him because I only accepted his offer to study but not to just "get together"...Oops.

Anyway, I'm posting today because it'll likey be the last time I do for another week or so. Finals are officially here. Ugh. The insanity started yesterday. I somehow overlooked the fact that I had a paper due. In my haste to get home and start writing it, I fell and completely busted my shit and sprang my ankle. Now I'm forced to limp around campus in addition to having to write four papers of mammoth proportions in the span of four days. ::Sigh:: The Karma Police must be out to get me.

But my main reason for posting right now is to tattle on myself about something. Last December, I made a post called Sucks to Be Cupid. It was about how the internet is ruining traditional dating rituals, and the fact that I objected to any type of online match-making. Well people, I sold out and made an online profile. ::Covers face in shame::

I don't even know what made me do it. Maybe it was all the e-Harmony/ advertisements that I kept subliminally seeing in my inbox. But one night I was just up procrastinating instead of studying, and then I suddenly Googled "Online Dating". Annnnd the rest is history.

Don't get me wrong, I don't think there's anything wrong with online dating. But there is something that feels a little last resort-ish about it. For me anyway. I mean, I'm young. Just 20 years old. And for some reason, I'm having a damn hard time finding anyone I'm compatible with in real life. A mere five months ago I was talking about how online dating was the devil, and now I'm doing it. I don't know, the shift makes me feel a little weird.

But I figure it doesn't hurt to look, right? I mean, I'm not using my real name or giving out any personal info. The whole thing seems a lot safer than Facebook dating, if you ask me. In any case, if I'm approached by one creepo too many, I can easily delete the profile and call it a day. But I have to say, so far it's been pretty cool. The site has a pretty comprehensive compatibility system that matches you with people who are really like you and...Oh God, I sound like an e-Harmony commercial, don't I? O.O

Well, I just joined two days ago and have already gotten over ten messages. They even have a "Stalker" page that shows you people who've looked at your page but never messaged you. There've been about fifty of those guys. Speaking of stalkers, I posted a link to my blog on my profile (don't ask me why). I've seen a dramatic spike in my stats from people in the Chicagoland area, so a big welcome to my new Stalkers who came by way of Ok Cupid! Say hi, blog fam ^.^

Anyway, I'm going to dive into my finals now. This may be the last time you hear about my online dating endeavors, unless something exciting happens. But something tells me it wasn't the smartest idea to plug my Love and Dating blog on a Dating site. Thinking about taking it down...

So, tell me guys: Would you ever consider online dating?


Just wanted to say that as soon as I'm done with finals, I will be doing blog rounds. I know I have LOTS of catching up to do. Especially with you, QQ. Damn you and your exciting life.



So, why did I just check my email and see this???


I'm sorry to say that I won't be able to meet with you this week. Things got a bit crazy with my thesis here. Sorry to have extended the offer, and then go back on it.

I would like to get together though. I'm not sure how I'm coming across in my email, but I think you're really sexy. =) Do you party? We could just hang and listen to some tunes or something. There's really no better way to get to know someone than by listening to their favorite album. I'm not even sure the interest is mutual, but I hope so.

And just to get it out of the way, I'm 28.

Lemme know,

OMG! Somebody tell me what to do!!! LOL

I'm a little scuuured now that I know he's 28 though...


ShAy~SHaY said...

I don't think there's anything wrong with dating a man who is older. I'm not saying sleep with the man but going out for drinks won't hurt.

Bloggal said...

i don't have a problem with older guys at all. i was dating a 26 year old when i was 19. but THIS is different cause dude is/was my teacher...

Vio said...

I guess my question would be (not to take a tangent) it a difference between online dating in like creating a profile and meeting someone online vs. catching up with someone you once knew before, but found them on facebook/myspace?

Either way, I don't think it's anything wrong with it but I'm a little scared of the former b/c of safety, assuming that someone ur catching up with online is a safe person for u to even know in the first place...know what i mean? k, thats all!

Bloggal said...

@ vio: i totally understand your point. but what i was referring to by "facebook dating" is when someone randomly adds you as a friend, and you start talking from there. they have access to all of your personal information--your full name, birthday, location, interests, etc. you forfeit your right to withhold all the information from the get go.

but with creating an online profile, you can maintain a bit more anonimity. besides knowing what i look like, orientation, and age, these guys know nothing about me. so i was just saying that it's safer because i can limit what they know about me. facebook is dangerous because there are so many loop-holes. even with limited profiles, people can find a way to figure things out about you.

Jaded said...

Do it. How is it any different than on line dating? At least you kinda sorta know this fellow right???

28 old but it's not like he's asking you to marry him. So....why the hell not. Did you say he was your teacher or TA. Because I always thought TA's where just poor grad students looking for a gig. lol.

strangetimes said...

My last gf I actually met over the internet, at a movie discussion forum and I don't have any complaints about online dating. I would do it again in a heartbeat if I found someone interesting. A connection is a connection, distance be damned.

Also, Chris sounds like a polite fellow doesn't he? I wouldn't be too worried about the 8 year difference, but then again, I'm a guy. I would still take a chance and head out with him on a date/get-together at least once. He's approaching you very respectfully, which is a good sign in my book.

YoungBlackBeauty said...

I say go for it. I would thing that with age comes maturity so an older guy isn't a bad thing. Plus u sorta know him even if he was just a TA, grad students just do it for money anyway.

I tried the online dating thing but came up with nothing. i was just looking but I still didnt get an overwhelming response either so i axed it. Maybe I'll try this site. It's worth a try.

Bloggal said...

@ jaded: i guess it's not much differen't...i'm still a bit nervous though. i think i'm a little creeped out by the fact that he's my TA. even though he's not my teacher, it still feels lolita-ish...ya know?

@ strange times: i think my one turn off was tha the called me "sexy"...i don't really take that as a compliment. call me attractive, pretty, beautiful, gorgeous even (all apply ::wink:: lol)...but being called "sexy" doesn't really make a woman feel special.

@ youngblackbeauty: i say give it a try. it seems like a pretty comprehensive site, and i think has lots of match making potential.

Experience is the best teacher. said...

Girl, shutup and go for it... It's hard out here, shoot. I wish I had slightly attractive, educated men emailing me trying to take me out...

It's hard out here. You better get in where you fit in! :-)

.::Anonymous::. said...


I'd say go for it. Think of it as a break/reward from finals and such. He seems really sweet from the email so it can't hurt. If it doesn't work out, you don't have to do it again and if it does you could have made a friend, possibly more. Good luck and I hope you feel better soon!

Anonymous said...

Online dating? At 20? Does seem a bit last resortish. But as long as you feel comfortable and sage with it, I say have at it!

As far as the TA, I'd definitely say go for it. Why not?

Tuotierugif >^..^<© said...

I hope you do good on your finals!

hmmm 28 :( lol

Anonymous said...

You're still young but I have no issues with online dating, granted I don't add fools from Myspace or facebook but anyways

Go for that date!!!

Nikki said...

Hey Syd,
I know this post is fairly old (and I suck at keeping up...) I'm curious about how this date went! You haven't updated in a while, and I know you're at home already, but from the second email he seems SUPER cute (like you said, in a nerdy way). I mean, he was careful to point out that what he said in the first email probably sounded a bit ambiguous. Plus, he might be a bit shy as he didn't approach you in person (obviously the TA thing played a part, but still. TA's go out with students ALL the time) and the part about 'tunes' is hella cheesy!
The 28th part doesn't seem like that big of a deal, either, ya know?
ANYWAY I miss you and can't wait to see you. Hope you're still up for some California dreamin'!


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