Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Here To Stay

It's soooooo flippin' cold outside. 29 degrees. 29 effing degrees!!! Ugh, I hate midwestern weather.

But that's not the point of today's post. I've been thinking alot about this whole url change. I've noticed the votes, and that most people believe I shouldn't change it. I talked to my mom about it, and she told me the same thing:

"You have to stop changing things for people. If it's what you wanna do, than do it. But if you're not uncomfortable knowing he's reading, than why should you?"

I love my mommy. *smiles*

She got me thinking about the bigger picture though. As a writer, I can't please everybody. Someone is going to have a problem with something I say--it's unavoidable. Everytime that happens, am I going to shut down my blog, run away from my critics? No. I have to keep writing. Keep doing what I love. And keep at it without abandon.

Anyway, after much consideration, I've decided not to change my url. In fact, I'm going to buy the domain, like I always wanted to.

Sorry for making everybody post up their email addresses lol. It's still good to know who's reading; I'll make a point to visit your blogs and return the favor:).

I know you all are probably like, "big whoop--you're keeping your url". But it is a big deal for me because I do have the tendency of making changes whenever something doesn't please someone, and I'm not just talking relationship wise. I'm a people pleaser in every sense, and I hate to disappoint. But I realize that sometimes you have to do what's best for yourself, even if it displeases someone else. Because, if you don't do what's best for you, who else will?

So, yes, Love is a Minefield is here to stay.

p.s.
For those of you who emailed me concerned about it, from now on I will keep mentions of Ex to a minimum. Meaning I'll rarely, if ever, write about him. As for worries about my content being censored, I'll continue to write as I always have.

xo,
bloggal

10 comments:

karrie b. said...

ur mom is great. in the long run, it's what you want that counts.


-KB

Bloggal said...

yes, my mom is the shiznit.

but yeah, it is what i want. it's the principal of it, you know? i have a history of changing my passwords for him (long story lol) and this is one thing i wanna keep.

Charles said...

I say its a good thing you're keeping your spot. I mean, this is your spot, you can't let people run you out of your place. But I understand though...cause I was at a point going to delete/move mine...so I get you...

Skinny Black Girl said...

Hi five! (Do people still hi-five these days? I know, I'm getting old!)

So very proud that you're staying in your spot and you are absolutely right. Anytime you decide to be blantantly honest about who you are and what you feel, somebody's feathers will get ruffled. But in the long run, it's about what you've got to do to make yourself feel good and whole again, so do you, girly!!

Teems said...

Thanks girl!

I was gonna tell you that this is your space and us bloggers/writers have pages to express ourselves and BE HEARD. Your ex heard you, even if it wasn't what he wanted to hear. Yea you can ease up on the talk about him but dont change who you are.

1/3 said...

I'm glad you decided to keep your url. Maybe it was meant for your ex to know how you truly felt about the situation. Being a people pleaser sometimes makes you neglect your own feelings. Glad you are comfortable with your decision:-)

clnmike said...

Well thats good to know, lol.

Bloggal said...

@ charles: hmm...i'm curious, who found out about your blog?

@ skinny: *High Five* i don't know if "people" still do high fives but i do lol.

you can't please everybody--i get that. now, i can apologize to him and stop writing about him because i know how that makes him feel, but that's the most i can do.

thanks for the support girly:)

@ teems: you're welcome babes;-)

it's so true, this is my home. and i can't be having anybody run me out of my home lol.

@ 1/3: yeah, i get that alot. being a people pleaser isn't a bad thing IF you know when to draw the line and be true to yourself. that's something i'm still learning.

@ clnmke: lol, i'm glad=)

Qucifer said...

Whoomp Whoomp is a celebration bitches!!!!

iCandy21 said...

ok wait...im totally lost. i need to go back and find the post that explains what was about to be a shenanigan! im so glad u decided to keep what was yours. i almost changed my url too, but fuck that shit! i say what i want and ion give to shits about who has a problem with it. this is a blog, and its not ur fault he chose to be nosey and read it and get in his feelings (thats what i think happened from what ive read here).

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